Trump Tapes: Sexual Assault Is Not Locker Room Banter
If you are connected to my personal profile on Facebook, then you may already have read my rant about this, but I felt the need to expand on what I said, hence a blog post.
I’m sure you’re already aware of the latest revelations about Trump – the tapes of him on the set of a soap opera discussing, nay bragging about how he forces himself on women, either by trying to kiss them or by “grabbing their pussy”, and how he can get away with it because he’s famous. Oh, how pleased with himself he was. There’s a term for this. It’s called Sexual Assault.
Some have rushed to distance themselves from him (at long last) whilst others have been equally quick to defend him. Nigel Farage (because what a voice of reason he is) defended Trump, saying it was just “alpha-male boasting”.
Let’s be clear – this is not locker room banter. Men who respect women do not speak about women in that way. Men who do speak about women in that way rarely stop at words.
Sexual assault is heartbreakingly common and often is not even recognised as assault. But we women know just how common it is. We know that it can start early, when we are children and can be at the hands of men we know. We know that these men would often not regard what they do as assault. We know it can happen in the workplace, on the street, at the doctor’s surgery, or anywhere else.
As I write this, women on Twitter are sharing details of the first time they were sexually assaulted. The first time. That phrase tells you all you need to know – that it happens so often that women can relate details, not of when it happened to them, but of the first time it happened to them. I can tell you the first time it happened to me. I was nine years old. The father of a childhood friend ran his hand up my thigh to find out what underwear I was wearing. He thought it was funny. I was sexually assaulted three more times by the time I was 18; once in the workplace, once in the street and once at my doctor’s surgery.
But back to Trump. Those who continue to support him say that this incident is not representative of the man. I beg to differ. Then there are those for whom the tape was apparently the final straw. I wonder what took them so long. Yes, these comments – the admissions of sexual assault – are disturbing, horrible, but are they surprising? There have been so many enablers of this behaviour, because so many people find a way to excuse him every time he shows his true colours.
Trump has openly admitted to finding a 12-year-old girl attractive. There have been several accusations of sexual assault made against Trump in the past, in court documents, which have seemingly been paid off. His former wife Ivana Trump accused him of rape, although she later retracted that statement, saying that it wasn’t rape “in a legal sense”, although she felt violated.
There is also what seems to be a very strong accusation of rape made against him by a 13-year-old girl, with evidence. The case also alleges the involvement of Jeffrey Epstein, a notorious “billionaire paedophile” who is now a Level 3 registered sex offender. Trump has said of him “I’ve known Jeff for 15 years. Terrific guy. He’s a lot of fun to be with. It is even said that he likes beautiful women as much as I do, and many of them are on the younger side. No doubt about it, Jeffrey enjoys his social life.”
This is the man who would have us believe he respects women and should be in the White House.
He is unsuitable for so many reasons, but these comments go beyond unsuitable. He is, by his own admission, a serial sexual offender.
Sexual assault is a Big Deal. It’s a big deal even if it is “just” one inappropriate touch. It is a Big Deal.
Any man who thinks otherwise, or who would say these sorts of things, or defend someone who says these sorts of things, should not be in any position of authority, let alone in the White House.