25 Things I Want My Daughter to Know
A-Z Challenge letter: D – Daughter
A little while ago, I read an article with a list of ten things to teach your daughter.
And that article got me thinking. There were some things that I agreed with, some things that I really agreed with, and some that I didn’t. And so I decided to write a list of my own:
- Don’t live your life to make someone else happy.
- You do not need a relationship to validate your existence.
- Don’t forget your friends, even when your lives take you in different directions.
- Don’t let others’ ideas of femininity dictate how you behave.
- You don’t need to explain yourself.
- Laugh and cry without limits once in a while.
- You can always tell me anything.
- You are not defined by your weight or body shape.
- You are capable of more than you think.
- Own your feelings and be true to them.
- I will always listen.
- Don’t let difficult times cloud everything; look for the positive in each day.
- Take your opportunities to travel.
- Expect to be treated well; accept no less.
- Don’t settle for second best.
- Just because I wouldn’t like it doesn’t mean you shouldn’t do it.
- With makeup, less is more.
- Don’t be afraid to argue for what is right.
- Be fierce.
- Don’t change who you are in order to be accepted.
- Wear the clothes that you like to wear, not what fashion dictates.
- Sex is rarely just physical. Be true to yourself.
- Be outrageous once in a while.
- Be you.
Actually, now I’ve written this list, I want to retitle it – 25 Things I Want My Children to Know. This list goes equally well for my sons as it does for my daughter.
And how do you stop at 25? I want them to know that they are enough. I want to tell them not to be afraid to ask for help. To walk away rather than put time and energy into a relationship that isn’t right for them.
I wanted to tell them it’s OK to take risks sometimes too, but I wasn’t sure how I could quantify that – I don’t want them to take ridiculous risks, but I don’t want their life to be stifled because they never take any risks. They ought to do things from time to time that they don’t tell me about until afterwards. Just, not yet!